Over the last year I've been trying to figure out what the direction of my blog would be, I'm not a product junkie so I knew turning this into a hair blog wouldn't work. Though I love fashion, I'm not the most creative dresser, I pretty much stick to black or suits for work, so a fashion blog was out of the question. I initially started the blog to track my love life and my dating escapades, but, ummm I don't really have all that going on in my life. So after much thought and consideration and trying to find something, I myself, would want to read, I settled on creating a single girl's guide to being single.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
The beauty of me
I absolutely love washing my hair...
It's such a spiritual thing to me, I don't know why, maybe it's because like most black women I only do it once or twice a week, but after every wash I feel better.
It's such a spiritual thing to me, I don't know why, maybe it's because like most black women I only do it once or twice a week, but after every wash I feel better.
Friday, May 8, 2009
Letter to my unborn daughter
No I'm not pregnant, No I don't have any kids, but I don't know what inspired me to write this "letter" I think the a thread on DDM inspired me. But I wrote it and I have it saved to every email and I really do plan on giving it to my baby girl, if I ever have one. I think girls need to know they are loved. But anyway, here it is.
Dear my love, my heart, my everything, my baby girl,
You aren’t even here yet, hell you aren’t even a twinkle in my eye just yet, but I am writing you this letter because I love you already. God hasn’t even given you to me yet and I love you. I wish so much for you, if I could give you the sun and the stars and sun I would, but I can’t. What I will give you are lessons my mother taught me and lessons other women have taught me.
I pray your grandparents are here to see you and doth on you and give you the wisdom I don’t have quite yet. I pray that you know the wonders of a close knit family the way I have. I pray you never fear your intelligence; it’s ok to be smart and be a girl, it’s ok to be smarter than the boys. It’s ok to run faster, to play harder, be taller, be bigger, be brighter than your male counterparts, and never dumb yourself down for anyone. Always let your light shine, because my dear, your light will shine bright. I pray you learn to never fear being different, be who you are, I will love always love you, your family will always love you and there are people that will love you as you are. I pray you know a daddy’s love the way I do, that he treats you like his little princess no matter how old you are and I pray that you hold that standard to the men you choose to let into your life. I pray that I can teach you the value of you, your body is priceless, you are priceless, you can’t be bought, don’t use it as a bargaining chip. Always treat it as a temple. I pray that you never experience the heartache I have, but if you do, I pray that you are stronger than me, that you know you are worth more, that you don’t deal with the disrespect, that you let him go when he has hurt you. I pray that you never become “d**kmatized”, lol, there is so much more to life. I pray you know that you know you are worth more than being second, third fourth, to a man. You are worth being a one and only. I pray you love a man that’s worth loving and you never love him more than yourself. I pray that you can have loving relationships with women outside of family, nothing is wrong with forging strong relationships with other women. I pray that I will be able to love you and guide you better than my mother. And not because I think that she has done a bad job but just because I feel each generation should be an improvement on the last. I pray you are smarter, stronger, wiser, and happier than me. I pray your father and I actually marry and stay together and show you what a loving, healthy relationship should beI pray that you know God. I pray you are healthy. All of these things I want for you and many more that I haven’t listed. I don’t even know you, I’m not ready to be your mom right now, I wouldn’t be effective in trying to teach you the lessons of life but I can’t wait to meet you. I love you.
Forever and Always,
Your biggest fan, your constant cheerleader, your strongest supporter, your future Mommy!!! :)
Dear my love, my heart, my everything, my baby girl,
You aren’t even here yet, hell you aren’t even a twinkle in my eye just yet, but I am writing you this letter because I love you already. God hasn’t even given you to me yet and I love you. I wish so much for you, if I could give you the sun and the stars and sun I would, but I can’t. What I will give you are lessons my mother taught me and lessons other women have taught me.
I pray your grandparents are here to see you and doth on you and give you the wisdom I don’t have quite yet. I pray that you know the wonders of a close knit family the way I have. I pray you never fear your intelligence; it’s ok to be smart and be a girl, it’s ok to be smarter than the boys. It’s ok to run faster, to play harder, be taller, be bigger, be brighter than your male counterparts, and never dumb yourself down for anyone. Always let your light shine, because my dear, your light will shine bright. I pray you learn to never fear being different, be who you are, I will love always love you, your family will always love you and there are people that will love you as you are. I pray you know a daddy’s love the way I do, that he treats you like his little princess no matter how old you are and I pray that you hold that standard to the men you choose to let into your life. I pray that I can teach you the value of you, your body is priceless, you are priceless, you can’t be bought, don’t use it as a bargaining chip. Always treat it as a temple. I pray that you never experience the heartache I have, but if you do, I pray that you are stronger than me, that you know you are worth more, that you don’t deal with the disrespect, that you let him go when he has hurt you. I pray that you never become “d**kmatized”, lol, there is so much more to life. I pray you know that you know you are worth more than being second, third fourth, to a man. You are worth being a one and only. I pray you love a man that’s worth loving and you never love him more than yourself. I pray that you can have loving relationships with women outside of family, nothing is wrong with forging strong relationships with other women. I pray that I will be able to love you and guide you better than my mother. And not because I think that she has done a bad job but just because I feel each generation should be an improvement on the last. I pray you are smarter, stronger, wiser, and happier than me. I pray your father and I actually marry and stay together and show you what a loving, healthy relationship should beI pray that you know God. I pray you are healthy. All of these things I want for you and many more that I haven’t listed. I don’t even know you, I’m not ready to be your mom right now, I wouldn’t be effective in trying to teach you the lessons of life but I can’t wait to meet you. I love you.
Forever and Always,
Your biggest fan, your constant cheerleader, your strongest supporter, your future Mommy!!! :)
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