2009 Resolutions

Yeah, yeah I know this is hella late, but better late than never right?

I always have these resolutions that I never ever follow through on, but I have decided to really be dedicated to taking care of myself and my feelings. Normally I put everyone and their wants and needs ahead of mine and while nothing is wrong with that, I have done it to the detriment of my spirit, which has been in a state of chaos for the last couple of years. I have all these big hopes and dreams for myself and my relationships. But how can I expect anyone to love me correctly when I don’t love myself, or how can I expect people to follow through on their promises when I can’t even do what I promised myself.

So the obvious one is to take care of myself. That means working out, eating healthily, meditating, praying, etc.

To practice the Law of Attraction consistently…It really works and when I was on it and practicing everyday, it helped me out so much.

I would like to go out socially at least twice a month, whether it be with friends or by myself. I spend a lot of time alone and I enjoy my own company but I need to get out meet some new people and have fun with the friends I already have.

Nurture the friendships I do have. Sometimes I can isolate myself from those that I love. Typical of me when I’m having man problems, money problems, family problems whatever. I followed the mantra that I came here alone and I will die alone, but I have realized that doesn’t mean I have to spend my life alone. I’m going to try to be a better friend, less selfish, more compassionate.

Develop my relationship with God, I wondered what was lacking in my life the most and truly this is it. I have slacked seriously.

Stop feeling guilty about the mistakes I have made… I truly have to forgive myself for my past and because I haven’t it affects me and how I feel about myself.

And last but not least stay FOCUSED on my goals, which I will list at a later time.

Curls Whipped Cream

This is my first product review so bare with me, please.

Curls Whipped Cream as described by the makers is ideal for 3c-4b hair. This product smells wonderful and it has a very light texture. When I first bought it I used it how the site instructed. I would apply the Quenched Curls Mosturizer ( I will add a review about that soon) then put in the Curls Whipped Cream, to be honest I didn't like the results. For my hair Curls Whipped Cream is not ideal for a wash and go but I like to use it for my twist and set styles. It gives great hold and my twistouts are really soft. I don't believe in wasting products so I will continue to use it until I run out but I'm not quite sure I will buy it again, for the price I paid for one jar of Whipped Cream I could buy two jars of Fantasia IC gel, which essentially does the same thing. But I don't feel like I wasted my money and I am happy I tried this product. The ingredients are listed below and as you can see the ingredients they are delicious!!!

http://www.curls.biz/curly-hair-products/Whipped-Cream-p-16148.html

Ingredients: Purified Water, Certified Organic Sunflower Oil, Certified Organic Aloe Vera Leaf Juice, Cocoa Butter, Polyimide-1, Glyercin, Certified Organic Coconut Oil, Certified Organic Sweet Almond Oil, * Gardenia Essential Oil, Tahitian Coconut Oil, Grape Seed Oil, Wheat Germ Oil, Avocado Oil, Plumeria Oil, Olive Oil, Sodium Carbomer, Centillica Asiatica, Panthenol, Octyl Palmitate, Polysorbate-80, Soy Tocopherols, Phenoxyethanol, Ethyl Hexyl Glyercin, Fragrance.

What's in a hater?

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time, trying to make you look small so they can look tall. They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough! When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what he gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have... The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story... If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too! We've all got some haters among us! People envy you because you can: Have a relationship with God! Light up a room when you walk in! Start your own business! Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing)! Raise your children without both parents being in the home! Haters can't stand to see you happy; Haters will never want to see you succeed; Haters never want you to get the victory, most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side? How do you handle your undercover haters? You can handle these haters by: 1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!) 2. Having a purpose to your life? Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you. 3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation. Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when it's your time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME! When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me...' - Maya Angelou.

I couldn’t have said this about haters any better. I look at so many people on myspace and face book talking about their haters and how their haters are their motivators. Maya Angelou couldn’t have said it any better!!! Be motivated by your purpose, be motivated by God and your promise to fulfill his word, don’t live your life trying to make others happy or better yet don’t live your life for your haters to hate on you. All you can do is pray for your haters, because they unlike you are living an unfulfilled life. How miserable is it to want and hate on someone’s life but not know or care to know the price the person paid to get where they are? Gnarls Barkley said it best, “My neighbor likes where I stay, but doesn’t know the price I pay; My neighbor like my clothes, but hadn’t seen me with my scars exposed.” I could easily hate on Halle Berry and her body, but let’s be real I’m not going to the gym three hours a day to look as good as she does. I could hate on Michelle Obama and her “perfect” family, but I don’t know what she has gone through to get there. I don’t know what she is going through now. Imagine loving a man and having a family but fearing that people want to harm them just because your family broke ground. I don’t think I can handle that. So my point is don’t let your haters turn you into a hater because you have decided to hate back on them, that’s what they want. They want to destroy you, your relationship with your family, your relationship with your friends, your relationship with your significant other, your success with your job or in school, your spirit and most importantly your relationship with God. Don’t give them that power.